FAQs about psychotherapy:
Won’t being in therapy make me dependent on someone else to help me solve my problems?
Therapy does not make one dependent, nor does a psychodynamic therapist typically “problem solve” or give advice. Quite the opposite, therapy develops autonomy as the individual develops awareness of rigid patterns that actually bind him or her to archaic relationships, demands, and expectations.
Will therapy make me blame others for my problems, or give me an excuse not to change?
The tendency to blame, or to make one person the “bad” one in order that the other can feel better about him or herself, underlies most abusive and dysfunctional relationships. The goal of psychotherapy is certainly not to perpetuate this. Therapy promotes the capacity for ownership of one’s feelings, choices, and actions. This in fact allows for greater intimacy, understanding, and change.
What if my condition is due to a chemical imbalance? Can’t I just take a pill?
At one time, the “nature vs. nurture” debate had practically polarized many health care disciplines. Current research is finding that the two are actually intrinsically linked. For many, medications are essential to daily functioning. It would be foolhardy and irresponsible to forego the use of medications in the treatment of certain conditions. However, the fact that medication brings relief by addressing chemical irregularities does not rule out the existence of self sabotaging patterns that often linger on and impede one’s capacity for a more fulfilling life.
Many people in recovery from chemical addictions take a firm stand against using medications to regulate their moods. I have been successful in treating people suffering from conditions such as panic disorders, without the use of medication.